I do believe conversing with the gf is a blunder.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree to you… i dunno. Its hard. I simply know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my option to make an effort to keep in touch with her, but if she sets the record right because of the gf, ideally she’s going to turn her focus through the LW being a problem to your man being the matter, which will be the proceedings.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am
And in addition, exactly what would you wanna bet that he’s feeding their brand new gf your whole “crazy ex” routine to spell out why they talk all of the time? And was operating into one another really just a coincidence?
Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am
I am able to realise why you’ll believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We browse the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can only just get a handle on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be buddies at all. It could you need to be yet another backlink to the man for the LW, that is attempting to cut psychological ties.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats a point that is good sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, I hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies using this selection of dudes who accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the inventors. Therefore the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, wished to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie 17, 2012, 10:04 am july
Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU MAY BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this new GF. She deserves to own a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless dreams intensely about her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW since the man is telling her a lot of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july
Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats really why a lot of people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut I have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands which he has a GF, he’s simply seeking a response each time he states it. He wants the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in twelfth grade and me personally and my boyfriend would split up almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain straight right back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said right here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I understand therefore a lot of men whom utilize that word to hide because of their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone somebody crazy into the place that is first. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact which you place a “crazy” label upon it, makes me think perhaps you are one that loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, you could be kinda crazy as well if you are willing to call someone crazy, wouldn’t that mean?
Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm
So real! As soon as the” that is“crazy down, Im operating one other method. I believe it had been stated above- once you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common always YOU, friend.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am
To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about any of it too, and yet she continues to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of that bull shit.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You need to just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also if you nevertheless like his attention, the reality that you realize he’s got a gf is causing you to a bad man in this too.
Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july
That is a point that is great you guys. I didnt consider it like this.
So LW, if you truly do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (I enjoy you, eljay) said, some body needs to end up being the adult in this example. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we trust you about talking into the gf. That knows just exactly exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting many times, but as the relationship is none of these company, the fact the LW while the girlfriend that is new met now i believe permits the LW some freedom. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need to say, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend was saying that is___ in my opinion and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been fine using this, ” just “Hey, I’m so sorry that went poorly, I became beneath the impression you’re ok with your being buddies, but i recently noticed I’m maybe perhaps not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july
I’dn’t speak to the girlfriend about that. If I had been dating some body for 2 months the very last thing I would personally desire is their ex of three years reaching off to me personally. And simply to share with you which you respect her relationship? I might think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Simply just just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex partner you don’t wish to hear from him for some time, and then keep them alone. Really they probably won’t workout because you will be nevertheless within the image (which does not do great things for a new relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, if we had been the newest gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a bar i might additionally need that individuals leave instantly. It is so uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay if your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually to be okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july